What Is The Ideal Relationship, Love, After Love Marriage Or Arrange Marriage?

“Love and marriage, love and marriage go together like horse and carriage”
“Fairy Tales Come True, they may happen to you if you are among the very young at heart” sung by Frank Sinatra
In the 40’s, Frank Sinatra sang to millions of teenagers fainting and set their hearts the fire. His songs brought a romantic vision of moonlit walks barefoot romps along the beach. Wow! Those were the days. Or were they? Romance was in the air, and then it turned into … Smog?
My mother, no different from other girls of her generation, was to shake the idea of romantic love. In the bedroom, I grew up in Brooklyn stood with pink lace and white French provincial furniture. On the wall, papered with red roses hung beautifully embroidered pictures, where two suited men bowed in the direction of two women dressed in dresses Coraline swollen. The poem was embroidered above the pair, which read: “Decorate your heart, your mind is decorated with the purest kind of love Sweet morning youth inspired by love and truth.” I read these innocent words repeatedly wondering what they had in mind.
Born in 1950 and grew up a teenager in the sixties, I was split between free love and romantic love. However, entrenched in my mind was the belief that if I was not married when I was twenty-one years, I was an unmarried woman? Twenty years, I was married. Thirty-nine years later, I’m still married to the same person. How do we make it work? As we live through the passages of time and continue to grow as a person, not killing each other? I’m not the same person all these years because of idealistic views of a dreamy rhyme. My husband and I are still going on because of years of intense inner work, therapy, spiritual retreats, commitment and honest communication. Our marriage is always under construction. More to come on this process of marital longevity, but first let’s look at some history on the myth of the “perfect marriage.”

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For A Perfect Marriage Why there is Need To Build Friendship

The most important communication synonymous with friendship. No other word can adequately replace both the friendship relationship than intercourse. In marriage and related relationships, friendship stands out is one of the main reasons why these relations should be cherished and worked in the first place.

Two main reasons for marriage are companionship and procreation. General counsel, that such rights are the reasons for marriage in the manner of communication of the first and second kind. This once again emphasize the important role that friendship is in human relations, especially relations between men and women.

Currently, he discovered that the marriage is concluded without friendship developed in the first place is prone to divorce, even when the couple was married for fifty years or more. Studies show that many marriages still break after a couple had been married for several years, pursued their careers, raised children, and returned home to live more closely for the first time without a job, children and business obligations between them. These couples have to face each other for the first since their marriage without barriers between them suddenly discover that they have nothing to do and can not be classified as companions for each other.

Africa from Nigeria to the United States in America, couples who have done well to educate their children and gave a picture perfect family were horrible at the end of the day. These are people who have been able to manage tasks, keeps well in the business and noted the success of families with neighbors and friends as the ideal family. As soon as they retire and the kids are gone, they’re just in shock, as they suddenly discover that they have nothing in common. Some of them were concerned that they can not even hold any meaningful discussions with each other without fighting, sometimes violently.

It is these reasons which have led to an increase in divorce, separation, and plural marriage rate among the elderly.

The problem of awakening in their lives, to discover that you have no companion in your wife and the husband can be taken care of as the basis for a happy relationship, if it is determined during dating, courtship and long before the marriage is contracted and completed. This is because as soon as you contract and consummate the marriage, you’re so in love with it and raising a family build a career. These keep couples are so busy that they do not always collide with each other.

Time to establish that friendship, which will be a beacon of stone for your relationship in old age while dating. In fact, it is strongly suggested that if you could not become friends with a member of the opposite sex, it would be unwise to contemplate the courtship or marriage.

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